I've noticed that any settings created on a fluidshape are lost when a houdini asset is synced or reloaded. Is it possible to have the plugin remember the maya fluidshape settings then the asset is reloaded or synced?

Whenever a sync happens, all the nodes in Maya under the asset node are deleted, and then recreated. So all the settings are lost. Perhaps a workaround is to unparent the fluidShape node. This would keep the sync from deleting it.

However, there's a downside. If some changes are made to the asset that require updating the asset's outgoing connections to the output nodes (e.g. fluidShape), the connection to the unparented fluidShape would not be updated. For example, if a new object is added into the asset, the connections on the Maya side may need to be rearranged.